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Lust, gluttony, greed, sloth, wrath, envy and pride are the seven deadly sins. And Warren Buffett described envy as the dumbest and most futile of them all: “As an investor, you get something out of all the deadly sins—except for envy. Being envious of someone else is pretty stupid. Wishing them badly, or wishing you did as well as they did—all it does is ruin your day. Doesn’t hurt them at all, and there’s zero upside to it. If you’re going to pick a sin, go with something like lust or gluttony. That way at least you’ll have something to remember the weekend for.” However, the desire to be as financially successful as someone else is not the product of envy, but admiration. There is no such thing as benign envy. Truly envious people do not want to close the gap to their more successful peers through effort and determination. They want more successful people to be worse off, for example by taking away some of their wealth.
The Masked Sin
It is clear from everyday experience that envy is one of the most widespread emotions. Despite this, most people claim that envy is something experienced by other people, not them. More than any other emotion, people deny that they are envious of successful people—and psychologists can explain why.
In his book, Egalitarian Envy, Gonzalo Fernández de la Mora noted that envy is a widely denied emotion: “One may admit to pride, avarice, lust, anger, gluttony and laziness, and one may even boast of them. There is only one capital sin no one admits to: envy. This is the dark, hidden, eternally masked sin. One tries to hide it from others with multiple disguises; its symbol ought to be a mask.”
Almost No One Admits To Envy
In 2005, 2009 and 2013, researchers interviewed 18,000 Australian adults. Using a scale from 1 (Does not describe me at all) to 7 (Describes me very well), the survey’s participants were asked how envious they were. Almost 54% of respondents awarded themselves the lowest scores for envy, namely a 1 or a 2. And just over 72% rated themselves with a score between 1 and 3. In contrast, just over 3.6% scored themselves with a 6 or a 7, thereby admitting to being envious.
Such surveys are by no means proof that almost no one is envious. In fact, they are an expression of a phenomenon that social researchers refer to as “social desirability bias.” When it comes to taboo topics, people are unwilling to provide honest answers, even in anonymous surveys. In such cases, pollsters need to use indirect questions to unearth people’s true opinions and feelings. There is a field in psychology called scientific “envy research” and researchers agree that envy is by no means a rare phenomenon. It is widely accepted that envy has existed in all cultures and at all times—and that envy directed at successful people is extremely common. So why are people prepared to admit other negative emotions (e.g. anger), but not envy?
One reason for this is that when someone publicly admits to being motivated by envy, any actions they take to remove the cause of their envy would be deemed socially illegitimate. When envy becomes recognizable as such, or is openly communicated, then the envious person automatically disqualifies the intention of satisfying it or eliminating it. People who feel social envy never speak of envy; instead they describe themselves as demanding “social justice”. However, when they refer to “social justice,” what they actually mean is “equality,” which they believe can only be achieved by taking from the rich.
Envy And Feelings Of Inferiority
The anthropologist George W. Foster asked why it is that people are able to admit to feelings of guilt, shame, pride, greed and even anger, without loss of self-esteem, but that it is almost impossible to admit to feelings of envy. Foster offered the following explanation: Anyone who admits to themselves and others that they are envious is also admitting that they feel inferior. It is for precisely this reason that it is so difficult to acknowledge and accept one’s own envy. “In recognizing envy in himself, a person is acknowledging inferiority with respect to another; he measures himself against someone else, and finds himself wanting. It is, I think, this implied admission of inferiority, rather than the admission of envy, that is so difficult for us to accept.”
In citing the American psychiatrist Harry Stack Sullivan, Foster raises an issue which is of key significance in exploring the envy directed at rich people. Envy begins when one person recognizes that another person has something that they would also like to have. This necessarily leads to the question, why don’t I have it? Why have they succeeded in achieving what I could not? This is a key insight: It helps us to understand why people are so vehement in denying their own feelings of envy. It also explains why most people do not want to admit that they are envious: “Envy is not pleasant because any formulation of it—any implicit process connected with it—necessarily starts with the point that you need something, some material thing that, unhappily, someone else has. This easily leads to the question, Why don’t you have it? And that is itself enough in some cases to provoke insecurity, for apparently the other fellow is better at assembling those material props of security than you are, which makes you even more inferior.”
“Successful People Are Just Lucky”
As demonstrated above, it is clearly not easy to deal with envy. In order to “resolve” their feelings of envy, the envious (or inferior) person needs to shift the blame for their failings to circumstances beyond their control. As Foster puts it: “Inferiority perceived as due to uncontrollable agents or conditions outside the individual, while unpleasant, may be at least bearable. Inferiority perceived as due to personal inadequacy, lack of competence, or poor judgment is much more difficult to accept, since it is so damaging to the self-image.” If the envious person can blame fate, luck or chance for the success of the person they envy, this places much less of a burden on their self-esteem. This is one reason why people who envy the rich frequently rationalize their feelings by attributing the success of rich people to factors such as luck, the use of morally deplorable methods, serendipity and unfair advantages.
When they are asked, even successful people tend to explain their own achievements as the result of “luck.” Nevertheless, such explanations should not be taken at face value. As the sociologist Helmut Schoeck explained, when people credit luck for their success, they are using a strategy designed to defend against envy: “An athlete, a student or a businessman who has just enjoyed a particularly sweet (and for others envy-arousing) success, shrugs his shoulders and says: ‘So what, I was just lucky’ … In doing so, and largely unconsciously, he is seeking to neutralize the envy that may be directed against him” by pointing to a “random, unpredictable and uncontrollable power, which is responsible for favorable or unfavorable” outcomes—or to a random combination of factors that have either favorable or unfavorable consequences for an individual.
July 1, 2019 at 07:03AM
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